I may complain just a tad in this post sorry to those that read it.
This week I am about 26 weeks along. When I was pregnant with little Dawning I don’t remember feeling the way I have been feeling lately. Not only am I bigger with little Hope (this is the meaning of her name) I feel like she is going to come out the wrong way! I don’t mean breach or butt first but rather through my stomach. I feel like I am carrying around a giant bowling ball.
I have not really slept in about three days and part of this is because I’m pregnant and can’t get comfortable (even with a body pillow), the other part is because Dawning is teething. She has been teething for two months and this morning one tooth finally popped through. That was after a very long night of tears and snuggles from both this momma and her new favorite big bird (that she stole from the church). Tonight has been the same thing. Except I think she has a very bad headache to go with her teething pain. Nothing momma or daddy tries to do is right. She’s so attached to momma that daddy has to get things for us.
To add to my little bit of sleep my hubby is sick. With this sickness that he has (just a cold) he is moaning and groaning throughout the nights. I have told him to shut up...Not that he remembers any of it. My poor husband also has picked this time to start going back to school! I am very proud of him don’t get me wrong. He is sick, working full time and trying to take for the next 9 weeks now two classes.
I am trying hard to be that most amazing supportive wife...yet I’m finding myself a tad jealous and a tad frustrated with him. I would love to go back to school! I hate that I failed at it. Well I didn’t fail I just failed to complete it. I feel frustrated with him because I try my hardest to do everything I can to make his life easier and now I don’t seem to have any energy to get out of bed. I feel the need to start looking for work again...There really is nothing that I can do as a stay at home mom without leaving my house. If I go back to work everything I make will just go to day care.
I really don’t know what my problem is. This has been my one and only true dream! To be a mom to be the one my kids run to when something is wrong. To give hugs and kisses as needed even if it’s just because they want one. Why is it then that I have this feeling of needing something more? Why do I feel as if I’ve failed in some way?
So to the topic of this post, I have had random burst of energy and have rearranged my house. I have set up the nursery to the best of my ability at the moment (it is also my pantry…it’s a very small room). I have moved my living room and dining room to the opposite rooms and have started to organize Dawnings in a way that she can play throughout the winter without been right under foot. I have helped stack wood and do outdoor clean up to prep for winter. Then the next moment I feel dead to the world and all I want to do is sleep or even just watch TV and not do anything (including taking care of my little girl).
Then of course there’s my anger that seems to come out of nowhere! Dawning can just look at me wrong and I’m yelling. We have had so many battles this week of her just saying momma Momma and I’m telling her to stop and go away and that I don’t want to hear my name again. Of course when I get this way (and even now just writing it) I want to cry. She hit me in the nose yesterday I yelled at her and told her it hurt…She of course doesn’t get hurting others yet and laughed at me. I passed her off and told her to leave me alone. She cried…I left the room to hide and cried too.
The worst reason I’m not sleeping is because my nightmares have come back. I read in the Baby magazine (not sure of the name of it) that pregnant women have dreams that go by what they are to expect when their kids come…Why is it then that I am having nightmares of not Hope getting up every hour or crying nonstop but that she’s dead? Why am I dreaming that I go into labor right after my hubby dies? How do these dreams help me face what Hope is going to like? Is God trying to warn me of something? Is the devil just getting into my head and is trying to tear me down for whatever reason?
Tonight my hubby is doing home work. Dawning is teething that nasty tooth or teeth of hers and is not really sleeping. I thought that I would work on my Sunday school lesson (I know way to put it off). I don’t even know what my problem was but I started to cry. The thing is I wasn’t sad or mad or happy…yet I was crying and laughing at the same time! The tears came first the laughter came as I tried to hide my tears from my hubby. They poured down my face.
What is wrong with me? Is it just that I’m pregnant or am I going to run right into that awful disease my brother and sister and my daddy have? Can I raise two little girls with that disease? Am I just so tired I can’t function right?
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ReplyDeleteDon't fret, sweet girl. You have a beautiful little girl who is cruising into the terrible twos or as I like to call them the 'temperamental twos'. This stage is frustrating without being 26 weeks pregnant and adding teething to it!
My solutions for teething; Popsicles, Tylenol, and ibuprofen for any bad fevers.
As far as hitting, just remember that it is a stage. Elena went through it and I hated it. She'd hit me all the time and I tried just about everything to get her to stop and nothing worked and now, she just doesn't hit anymore unless she is really frustrated, in which case I correct her and move on.
Being a parent isn't easy. Being a stay at home parent isn't easy. I think that as mothers, we often forget to take time for ourselves. Take some time for yourself, Nari. Go for a walk alone, take 20 minutes for a quiet, uninterrupted devotion, etc.
Also, you are 26 weeks pregnant. SLOW DOWN. I know it seems like there is always something that can be done, but your energy reserve isn't what it used to be and keep that in mind when deciding to take on projects.
As far as the dreams come, that too is pregnancy related. I had some of the scariest and horrendous dreams when I was pregnant. Sometimes I found it was connected to the worry and stress that I experienced during my days.
Know that your baby is going to be happy and healthy and that it is scary to think that something could go wrong. However, that thought is probably more of a reality to you because of the experience that your mother had.
Everything will be fine, Nari.
As far as thinking that you have a disease of the mind, do not think that. It is perfectly OKAY to be crazy emotional during pregnancy. Think of what your body is doing right now, in addition to the hormones raging inside you!
When I was pregnant with Elena, I had a mental break down on the phone with Josh when I was 23 weeks because I needed a boppy pillow NOW not in a couple of weeks. I have no idea why this was so important to me but it was and at the time I was devastated that Josh didn't understand and yet looking back on it, I laugh.
Sometimes we are not so rationale when pregnant, but that is part of the process.
Most importantly remember that God will never give you more than you can handle and he is always looking out to you and protecting you.
Love you,
Sammy